10-23-2004, 08:09 PM | #1 (permalink) |
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[dating] In Need of Advise...
Ok, so my girlfriend (now ex) and I, broke up about two weeks ago, it was a fairly mutual breakup. Things had begun to go downhill and just a general lack of time between the two of us brought it about. We had been dating for just about 8 months, lost virginities to one another and yada yada. We still are good friends so it is alright.
Here is my situation though. I am ready to get back into the dating circle, but I am struggling. I hadnt realized this, but while I was going out with her, I didnt loose touch, but a lot of my other friendships were weakened . So now the majority of my good friends have made other friends and have gf's of there own (i was the first of the group to get a steady girl). Basically, it is really hard to find people to go out with that can introduce me to other chicks because they all want to be with their gf's all the time, just as I was always with mine. So, I have a few girls that I think are mad cool and would really like to get to know better. However, I'm not sure how to go about it and here is why. Girl #1: One of my ex's best friends and pretty good friend of mine. I know she used to have a thing for me. I dunno if I should go for her or not simply because she is so close to my ex... Girl #2: I used to be really close friends with this girl in highschool although nothing more ever developed. She is smoking hot, but I havent really talked to her much lately. We used to see each other all the time, but now we goto the same college and rarely see each other. We dont really talk much online anymore (we rarely talked on the phone), but I still have her SN. IT could be kinda awkward talking to her and wanting to hang out considering we have barely talked in in a good 6 months. Girl #3: This one is kinda weird so bear with me. This girl is a basically a friend of a family friend. (does that make sense?) I never really got to know her, but she is very attractive and seems like a genuinely good person. Now are family friend had a grandfather pass away this past week and at the viewing I saw this chick. She has always been at gatherings but we never really talked much beyond them. I would really like to get to know her, but I dont know her phone # or SN. Thus, I would have to get them from somebody else and that can just look pretty crappy for me. Also, out mothers are good friends and have talked about us getting together for a long time, so that has potential awkwardness, but I can deal with it if she can. Girl #4: I work with this girl. She is really cool, attractive and just an awesome person. I would love to get to know her better outside of the workplace, however I dont know if she has a bf, but that can be found out easily. She is also pretty flirtatious with me so that's cool. The only problem here is that I dont know her phone number or SN either, she is fairly new and we work together only 1 - 2 times per week. (resturant). Also her brother, a year older than me, works at the same place, but I think he could be cool with it. How safe is it go get involved with a fellow worker? So yea, I'm lost and am in major need of advice. I just dont know what to do, I would love to get to know all 4 of these girls better, but there are so many things weighing on each one. Just please offer up what you can to me lol, I need all the help I can get. I like to think that I have a good chance with all them too. Like I dont mean to sound snotty or whatever, but I am told fairly often that I am an attractive guy, even though I'm a little on the shorter side (5'8"). sorry for the long post... |
10-23-2004, 09:04 PM | #2 (permalink) | ||||
The Pusher
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Don't worry about being short, there are just as many tall people as short people, and just as many regular people too! It's always said here that it's your personality that wins in the end. I'm surprised you're ready to date after only two weeks, but if you really are ok with everything then that's great. I think you should go for the girl at your work, but don't put a label on it until you find out if you really like her. Otherwise, the family friend girl might be the way to go. |
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10-23-2004, 10:00 PM | #3 (permalink) |
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I'd go for the gusto and use a shotgun approach. Discovered after a date or two you WILL know if it will or will not work out. You will never know unless you try.
Take a deep breathe and jump into the pool of life. Mankind has been going through this since the beginning. Just think, your parents met somehow and made it work to some degree to have you... |
10-25-2004, 02:31 PM | #4 (permalink) |
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bump
Thanks guys. Yes, I am 19 years old and where I work is not going to be permanent. Just a college job for now so I have some income. I work with Girl #4 next on friday so we'll see how things go. I will definitely update with the details. Can anybody else offer me some advice. I'll take all I can get. |
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