Originally Posted by NosVette

Ok, I am sorry, but this is completely off base. Yes, it would make sense if she was JUST talking about fantasies. BUT SHE CHEATED ON HIM!!! When was the last time you fucked a webcam girl? Looking at porn should be an open thing, and dealt with on a seperate time. Cheating is a WHOLE different ballpark. I have never been married myself, but I have had some serious relationships, and in all of them I looked at extensive ammounts of porn... openly. However, I NEVER ONCE contemplated cheating on my girl.

When I was a kid, my parents got divorced, then both my sisters got devorced, and if there is one thing that I know about its what can destroy relationships. He has to tell her what he found, in a calm manner. She will be hurt that he was snooping, but she should get over that if she cares about him. And yes, the not telling her friend that she was married with kids is a large problem with their relationship, and I think that he should contemplate ending it for the sake of thier child. If she is not willing to commit to their family, he should find someone who is willing to, and to do it fast, so that the kid doesn't have to deal with this shit later in life. This WILL negatively affect their child, and she obviously does not care enough to examine this possibility. I think that it's sad that she considers what she is doing REMOTELY exceptable. Have your friend explain this to her, and things will work out better in the long run.