Bad news; get away. Good sex is not worth the degradation; if everybody's lying, how good can be it, anyway? Eventually, you'll wonder why you're there, showing up with your hat in hand out for a little sex every night until she dismisses you for good. Is that who you want to be?
I had a relationship with a woman who was very lonely, but also couldn't commit; just didn't feel safe doing it. She liked to pretend that "life is a cabaret" and there was no need to be serious about anything, including relationships, and yet she was not a happy person. I believed in commitment, and we were together for a year or so. I kept trying to get close and do some relationship work, but she kept dancing away. "Every once in a while, she'd tell me blithely, "I like being with you, but I'll probably dump you one of these days." I had also, in previous relationships, stayed too long and given up too much just for the sex, and I just couldn't take this. So _I_ finally broke it off. She complained that she'd be lonely without me -- not _me,_ but simply because there'd be nobody around. She never talked to me after that -- a mutual friend told me it was because her pride was hurt, more than anything; she believed that women were supposed to dump men instead of vice versa, and so I'd done the unforgiveable. But of course, she was gonna do it to me, and _my_ pride was intact.
I don't see how you get out of her without losing her as a friend. (Though, no matter how likeable she is, she's a dubious friend if she's lying to you and using you.) But I think you're better off losing her as a friend than letting her treat you like dirt. And what kind of friend does that?
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