Need some advice...
I'm in first-year at university, and recently some shit has been really messing with my head. I know it's not anyone's fault but my own, but I need some help from somebody.
My roommate is a pretty good friend from high school. Down the hall are some girls who I've been an absolute god to, taking them to parties and helping them out when they get too drunk. Unfortunately, I fit into the role of the "nice guy" and so there's no way I can get seriously involved with any of them, because I know if I try to pull a move on one of them it will either get rid of my status as the trustworthy nice guy, or they will just not take me seriously. One girl I had my eye on slept with my roommate one night, which I thought I could take. A couple days after it seemed like it was just a one-night thing and I wouldn't have to worry. But the envy does get to me, since he's basically emotionless and hasn't put as much time into her as I have. As for the other girls, they have this obsession with the older members of my fraternity, which makes it awkward over at the frat house - I turn into a chauffeur whenever I bring them over to the house.
I feel the only thing I can do is to disassociate myself with them - find some other girls out on campus and just get away from my residence for a week or two. I've been trying to do so by just riding the bus around town with my discman on weekends, just to explore the city and think about stuff.
How can I get out of this pinch? How can I break out of the "nice guy"/"best friend" character without jeopardizing my current relationship with these girls?
Remember, TFP doesn't judge. I just know that this is a good place to turn when I need some help. Thanks in advance.
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