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BigDonkey2 · 10-14-2004, 12:53 PM

I've had multiple threads about my gf being in France. I'm doing ok now. I have a question though. I was just talking to my gf and she was at this school party last night and dancing with friends and strangers and stuff and this guy came up to her and started dancing with her and kissed her on the lips. She said she was pretty drunk and didnt remember if it was 2 different guys or the same guy. She told the guy that she had a boyfriend and the guy told her he had a girlfriend. Now my question is this; Why does this seem to be like its no big deal? My gf was just telling me its just a physical need. I understand this but don't people over there have any fucking morals? I wouldn't even think of doing anything like that to my gf. I would feel so guilty and thats why I don't put myself into those situations. I'm not focusing on her being gone anymore because I know shes coming back and everything will be back to normal. I find it really weird though that people over there have boyfriends and girlfriends and yet are out dancing and hooking up with different people. It doens't make any sense to me.

I guess it bothered me a little bit when my gf told me that some guy kissed her on the lips but I know that it doesn't mean anything and that she loves me and doesnt care for any of those guys. Now the thing that would get into my head would be "Did she push him away?" "Did she enjoy the kiss?" "How long was the kiss?" I'm trying not to let that get to me although it really wants to right now. I'm trying to be as strong as possible to fight the urges of getting pissed off. I know that I can't control what other guys do and thats what gets to me. I don't know these guys and I know they're hitting on my gf and trying to get with her. I think though that she also has to take my feelings into consideration about this type of stuff, unless I'm wrong here and if so then please tell me because I might be. I know shes off having the experience of a lifetime and having fun and all but damnit its fucking hard. I guess I'm not in the best of moods now, and once I get some more phone cards (hopefully today) I'll call her back and talk to her some more.

So I guess thats sort of my question/comment on the whole situation. What do you guys think?

10-14-2004, 12:53 PM	#1 (permalink)
BigDonkey2 Insane Location: California	Culture shock? I've had multiple threads about my gf being in France. I'm doing ok now. I have a question though. I was just talking to my gf and she was at this school party last night and dancing with friends and strangers and stuff and this guy came up to her and started dancing with her and kissed her on the lips. She said she was pretty drunk and didnt remember if it was 2 different guys or the same guy. She told the guy that she had a boyfriend and the guy told her he had a girlfriend. Now my question is this; Why does this seem to be like its no big deal? My gf was just telling me its just a physical need. I understand this but don't people over there have any fucking morals? I wouldn't even think of doing anything like that to my gf. I would feel so guilty and thats why I don't put myself into those situations. I'm not focusing on her being gone anymore because I know shes coming back and everything will be back to normal. I find it really weird though that people over there have boyfriends and girlfriends and yet are out dancing and hooking up with different people. It doens't make any sense to me. I guess it bothered me a little bit when my gf told me that some guy kissed her on the lips but I know that it doesn't mean anything and that she loves me and doesnt care for any of those guys. Now the thing that would get into my head would be "Did she push him away?" "Did she enjoy the kiss?" "How long was the kiss?" I'm trying not to let that get to me although it really wants to right now. I'm trying to be as strong as possible to fight the urges of getting pissed off. I know that I can't control what other guys do and thats what gets to me. I don't know these guys and I know they're hitting on my gf and trying to get with her. I think though that she also has to take my feelings into consideration about this type of stuff, unless I'm wrong here and if so then please tell me because I might be. I know shes off having the experience of a lifetime and having fun and all but damnit its fucking hard. I guess I'm not in the best of moods now, and once I get some more phone cards (hopefully today) I'll call her back and talk to her some more. So I guess thats sort of my question/comment on the whole situation. What do you guys think?