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Look, if my wife had an affair, and she ended it, I wouldn't want to know. If I found out through some third party, I'd be upset. But I wouldn't be MORE upset. I admit, I'd probably throw out a line like, "...and you didn't even tell me! I had to find out about it from that guy in the van by the river!" But the bottom line is - it wouldn't REALLY make me feel worse.
You have guilt. You hope that by telling your wife, you will make youself feel better. Well, I have news for you. You won't. You will [I]hurt your wife. It may even feel good on some level to put her nose in the mess "she caused" by withholding intimacy from you.
But be honest with yourself. What the fuck good is going to come from telling your wife that you had an affair? is she going to thank your for your honesty?
Suck it down. Don't compound your mistake.
Oh, and stay away from the woman you were fucking. Don't talk to her. Don't try to be friends. You have already proven that you can't resist that temptation. Sure it will suck, but you need to keep this situation from getting worse. You have kids to think about.
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