danbiles

Wow! A lot of interesting things were said re. my last post. Most of them I already knew. To respond to some of the questions. My wife and I have talked and had counseling. She says it isn't me, she just doesn't have any drive. The sex was just one part of our marriage that is missing. My wife has quit talking to me as well. (at least about important things) I had always said that I could stay in a loveless marriage if it was congenial for the sake of the kids but it gets damn lonely. The affair came from that lonliness and a freind who was there. Since my first post we have agreed to quit the sexual part but we are still communicating. I need to make some tough decisions but the chance of loosing the kids. I know the affair was wrong, and that is why it ended. We both hated sneaking around. I think the worst thing would be to tell her. If I'm ashamed and feel bad, I think I should bear that alone and not hurt my wife with it so that won't happen.