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Digilogic - I don't mind replying, I know it always feels a lot better to get personal advice from someone about your personal situation.
I'm with the people that replied here. Having second thoughts after a breakup is as normal as eating and breathing. In that sense yours isn't a unique situation, which is why so many people think it's not really an issue. The fact is that after a breakup, most people freak out and wonder if they made the right choice. Years down the track, very, very few people think back and wish they'd never ended the relationship, and that's because they find someone new.
Your relationship with that woman is gone, it's over, and you might need a little more time to accept it, but it's just a fact. If you go back to her you'll end up as miserable as you are now, all over again. It's like a comment I saw in the quitting smoking thread, someone said that you've done the hard part, if you go back now you'll have to go through that again. And like someone else said (I don't know who), "If you're going through hell, keep going." Don't step back, don't stay where you are. Move on and you'll get through it.
If you want to pursue the woman who came onto you, that's a viable option, as long as you recognize the chances that it won't amount to anything if she knew you had a girlfriend at the time. If she did, she doesn't sound very trustworthy to me. Whether you chase her, or you just chill out for a while and do your own thing, that's up to you. Those are your options, but calling up your ex-girlfriend isn't one.
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