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asudevil83 · 10-08-2004, 10:30 PM

I'm going to try to keep this short and sweet, so i'll try to just summarize this entire fiasco.

About 5 months ago two of my closest friends broke up, we'll call them A (the girl) and B (the guy). they had been together for about three year, and i guess it was just time for a change. the breakup was a mutual thing i guess, so they agreed to stay friends and stuff. they both started dating other people a few weeks later (i thought that that was just a little too soon.) B did some stuff that he felt a little bad about, i guess trying to get over her and stuff by messing around with other chicks.

about a 2 weeks ago, in a fucked up state of mind (mushrooms), B starts talking to one of my other good friends (we'll call her C) about how he has felt bad about doing what he did. he was very vague about it, and left her pondering. she then goes out and tells A. they both ponder this for a week or so. B then calls C back and tells her that he knew that she would go and talk to A about that and says that he was doing this to see how it affected A (in a way manipulating her.) well, C freaks out and tells B that she never wants to talk to him again because as well as she thought she knew him, he did a complete 180 on her.

this is where it involves me. in C's mind, a person's personality and actions are reflected in their friends. therefore, since I've known B since first grade, i somehow MIGHT have these same manipulative tendencies. FUCKED UP LOGIC. so basically, my integrity has been attacked, and trust is now an issue between us. i could definately see her reasoning if i had known her for a couple of months or so, but i've known her for over a year.

I used to talk to C and A all the time and hang out with them pretty much every fri, sat, and sun.....but since then not much of anything. i had lunch with A yesterday and she suggested that we go to a concert tonight. i called this evening and text messaged her confirming, but at the time it was supposed to start i got a last minute call cancelling because she "had no money for it" and that she was going to hang out with one of her girl friends tonight instead. other things like that are pissing me off. apparently they have no problem hanging out with me, but i get no calls to do so. am i supposed to call them up asking if i can hang with them? i dont think so. from my perspective their is still something wrong, and i dont want to "invite" myself to hang out with either of them if they are going to be waiting for me to fuck up.

i hate dealing with drama bullshit, and the way i do deal with it is by keeping myself away from it....and that's by distancing myself from them until things change. i have a feeling that unless i do something to keep myself in the picture, they'll just think that i'm done with them as friends. what the fuck do i do?

10-08-2004, 10:30 PM	#1 (permalink)
asudevil83 Psycho Location: Scottsdale, AZ	What's wrong with my friends? I'm going to try to keep this short and sweet, so i'll try to just summarize this entire fiasco. About 5 months ago two of my closest friends broke up, we'll call them A (the girl) and B (the guy). they had been together for about three year, and i guess it was just time for a change. the breakup was a mutual thing i guess, so they agreed to stay friends and stuff. they both started dating other people a few weeks later (i thought that that was just a little too soon.) B did some stuff that he felt a little bad about, i guess trying to get over her and stuff by messing around with other chicks. about a 2 weeks ago, in a fucked up state of mind (mushrooms), B starts talking to one of my other good friends (we'll call her C) about how he has felt bad about doing what he did. he was very vague about it, and left her pondering. she then goes out and tells A. they both ponder this for a week or so. B then calls C back and tells her that he knew that she would go and talk to A about that and says that he was doing this to see how it affected A (in a way manipulating her.) well, C freaks out and tells B that she never wants to talk to him again because as well as she thought she knew him, he did a complete 180 on her. this is where it involves me. in C's mind, a person's personality and actions are reflected in their friends. therefore, since I've known B since first grade, i somehow MIGHT have these same manipulative tendencies. FUCKED UP LOGIC. so basically, my integrity has been attacked, and trust is now an issue between us. i could definately see her reasoning if i had known her for a couple of months or so, but i've known her for over a year. I used to talk to C and A all the time and hang out with them pretty much every fri, sat, and sun.....but since then not much of anything. i had lunch with A yesterday and she suggested that we go to a concert tonight. i called this evening and text messaged her confirming, but at the time it was supposed to start i got a last minute call cancelling because she "had no money for it" and that she was going to hang out with one of her girl friends tonight instead. other things like that are pissing me off. apparently they have no problem hanging out with me, but i get no calls to do so. am i supposed to call them up asking if i can hang with them? i dont think so. from my perspective their is still something wrong, and i dont want to "invite" myself to hang out with either of them if they are going to be waiting for me to fuck up. i hate dealing with drama bullshit, and the way i do deal with it is by keeping myself away from it....and that's by distancing myself from them until things change. i have a feeling that unless i do something to keep myself in the picture, they'll just think that i'm done with them as friends. what the fuck do i do?