I've been in the situation before. In fact the girl I was dating at the time had 2 kids not just one so you can imagine how the pressure was multiplied. I'd say that if you aren't able to care for the kid as you would your own then you should probably back down. I'm not saying take over as her father because you can't do that. What I'm saying is that if you can't devote the time, effort, or money to raising a child as well as have a relationship then get out of it. If you can deal with those issues and there's a true bond there, then by all means stay. If you can't deal with the issues then the stress that's created will only make things bad in the long run and could lead to the super serious or painful issues that you are hoping to avoid. Bottom line: we can't tell you what to do, you have to figure out how you feel and what you really want and go for it. Good luck to you!
