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maleficent · 10-08-2004, 03:53 AM

Four months is barely a relationship... you're still in the "honeymoon" stage, or maybe just coming out of the honeymoon stage where the rose-colored glasses come off and you start seeing people as they really are.

A few different scenarios
1. He does annoy you. Why try to make something out of nothing, it just makes it worse in the long run.
2. You are trying to push him away. Distance can be a relationship killer, unless you can appreciate the time you have together (and not spend part of that time bitching about something) then it won't work -- and you probably realize that -- so you are trying to push him away/
3. You are testing him, to see if he really cares about you. That if he comes back after your outbursts that he really must care.

Only you can answer that question, really, why do you get mad. The little things about a person will always bug you, if you let them, you can accept them as part of his person and like them because you like him. Remember his good points and if his good points outweigh the bad points...

Do you find yourself getting mad at other little things, or is it all directed at him?

10-08-2004, 03:53 AM	#2 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	Four months is barely a relationship... you're still in the "honeymoon" stage, or maybe just coming out of the honeymoon stage where the rose-colored glasses come off and you start seeing people as they really are. A few different scenarios 1. He does annoy you. Why try to make something out of nothing, it just makes it worse in the long run. 2. You are trying to push him away. Distance can be a relationship killer, unless you can appreciate the time you have together (and not spend part of that time bitching about something) then it won't work -- and you probably realize that -- so you are trying to push him away/ 3. You are testing him, to see if he really cares about you. That if he comes back after your outbursts that he really must care. Only you can answer that question, really, why do you get mad. The little things about a person will always bug you, if you let them, you can accept them as part of his person and like them because you like him. Remember his good points and if his good points outweigh the bad points... Do you find yourself getting mad at other little things, or is it all directed at him? __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.