Originally Posted by windaelicker

I am convinced that various birth control pills/patches/etc owe some of their efficacy to the fact that lots of women have no sex drive whatsoever when they are using said birth control methods.

Sorry for the outburst. Extremely frustrated lately. My wife stopped taking the pill a little over a year ago, and we had some of the best sex of our marriage, all last summer. The reason she stopped taking the pill is we wanted to have a baby. By the end of summer, we were pregnant.

We have a healthy, happy baby boy, and we are thrilled to have him in our lives. Nothing would change that.

But we have not had decent sex more than twice in the last year. Now my wife is back on the pill, and it is near impossible for me to get anything going with her, and there's no way in hell she's going to be the one to initiate anything.

I am just curious as to others' experiences with this sort of thing. I know that my good (female) friend said she hasn't used the pill in years because of this. Instead she uses condoms... and I can't relish the thought of using condoms again... my wife and I have not used condoms since we were first together almost ten years ago.

Thanks!