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There are a few things to try.
First: talk about it. Ask if she thinks the pill is killing her sex drive, or if it's exhaustion from having (and taking care of) a kid, and a hectic schedule. If that's the problem, see if you could set aside some "personal time" where the two of you get together and have fun like you used to, even if you're not having sex. If her sex drive is diminsihed bcause of stress, but she still wants to do it, the anticipation will build and she'll be more likely to be able to enjoy it.
Second: she should go to her doctor (you'll be at home taking care of your son, if you find any way of getting around that, you might want to consider going with her) and see if she could switch to something with a different combination of hormones. This will probably solve the problem
Third: comdoms aren't the only way to prevent pregnancy. I've heard too many horror stories about IUD's to reccomend it as a first choice (although it's always the bad stuff you hear, not the good.) You can try the diaphragm, female condoms (I've heard rumors that you can't tell it's there, even while giving her oral, although I tend to doubt that,) and whatever else I'm forgetting. Don't go for the shot if she reacts badly to the pill, that just means it's going to take another six months to get bck to normal if it doesn't work like you want it to.
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