doncalypso
*Rant* Just based on your own words, I'd say that you are only interested in your girlfriend as a sexual object and not as a equal human being. Yes, I'm fat, and that does color my opinions a bit (but only a smidge). You say you've been with your GF for three years and in that time she's let "her physique slack" and "eats way too much and doesn't work out at all". Well, guess what?...people change!!!
My Hubby and I have been together almost 16 yrs. We were 17 1/2 when we met and I weighed all of 95 lbs., had a kick-ass body, and was beautiful back then (probably why he was drawin to me, although I was insecure and didn't realize any of that at the time). Within the first year we were together, actually the last 8 mths., I gained 100 lbs. and went from a 95 lb. girl to a 195 lb. girl with absolutely no change in diet or lifestyle (only change in my life was my parents getting divorced which was actually a very good thing). And no, I wasn't a closet eater, I didn't have late night binges and stuff my face with tons of junk food or any of the other cliche' things people who've never been fat like to throw around about why other people are fat. Like I said (and I've been tested by many doctors since), it just happened.
My Hubby is a very good-looking guy, not just in my eyes, but in many other females eyes as well. He had not even a year of my thin self before I gained weight and yet he has been with me for nearly 15 yrs. since. "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and obviously you can't behold beauty in someone who has a few extra pounds on her body.
I'm not saying fat is beautiful, but if you truly love your GF (of 3 yrs.!), than you need to accept her as she is or else tell her that you will never be able to deal with a less-than-perfect person and get your ass out of the relationship so she doesn't have any worse emotional fall-out (than she already will) if you do it any later on down the road.
Sorry, but I can't stand people who buy into the "Britany Spears/Supermodel" Hollywood ideal of what women should look like. Hello, take a look around you (unless you live in L.A.), 98.9% of women don't look like models/actresses/porn stars or any other woman that is in the media, get a clue people, please.
For those of you still in the dark, most of those Hollywood women don't even look like that in real life, it's called airbrushing. If you don't want your bubble popped, than don't check this site out! (I appoligize, I don't really know how to post links yet)
"Greg's Digital Archive".
www.homepage.mac.com/gapodaca/digital/bikini/
That site's content's even surprised the shit out of me and I suspected something along those lines, but didn't think reality even came as close as that.
*Rant* over, continue on...
Ali
Edited to say: Happy happy, joy joy!! I now know that I just have to type out the web address and a link will automatically be there!
(Pretty much a forum tech virgin
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