Thank you both for the helpful insight
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Originally Posted by maleficent
You sound like you are "handling" her the right way, making her comfortable, not putting pressure on her, and stopping when she says to... There's a but I have there that I can't quite bring myself to say as a woman...
What's her family history like? Talking about sex is one thing, clinical is one way, emotional is something completely different, is her family affectionate?
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Her family seems pretty affectionate. She seems to be very close with her mom and she tells me they talk about the relationship quite alot, so they are quite open with eachother. When we have a fight her parents usually end up knowing about it. When she talks about sex it can be for fun and she occasionally asks me how far I've gone and that kind of thing, not always purely clinical talk, and she seems pretty comfortable about, which is surprising because she usually blushes at the slightest things. She just likes talking about it casually.
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One, she's just plain afraid of screwing up because she cares a lot about you. She's comfortable enough to push you away, but not comfortable enough to let you know how inexperienced she is. She could self conscience about not "knowing what to do"...
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Hmm now that you mention this, she did slip in the conversation once she was affraid she didn't know what to do, but she's let me know before how innexperienced she is. I never triggered the sex talk, in fact, she was the first to ask me if I was a virgin. That's partially what is kind of unsettling about it because she's comfortable enough to say she's never been into that territory before yet.. well, you know.
Anyway, I will seriously take the advice into consideration as it seems like the most rational path to take. I guess it just takes time, so we'll see how that goes.