stonegrody

That's a tough situation. There are a few things you need to work out before you become sexually active. You need to get over the anxiety and the dirty feeling you are getting. Otherwise, the problems will continue and you will not be able to enjoy what you are doing. Sex should be a pleasurable thing and not something that causes anguish for either of you. It sounds like you both have a little bit of growing to do. You need to get to the point to where you're comfortable enough with a woman to not worry about stuff, relax and just do it. She needs to be a better partner and help you with the issues you're having. You're in a relationship. If you're not comfortable with each other, maybe it's not time to have sex yet. This definitely sounds like mental block on your part. The fact that she is not helping is only making matters worse. I think you're going to have to work out the issues with your relationship before you can even approach the issues you're having in bed.

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