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BigDonkey2 · 09-27-2004, 07:02 PM

I have quite a dilemma on my hands. My girlfriend is in France right now for the semester. I've been telling her that I wanted to come visit her and that I would try my best. Well its come down to crunch time and I'm having a tough decision. She told me she would split my airfare with me as an early Christmas present, which was really nice to hear. However, the place she is staying at won't allow overnight visitors to stay, so that means I would have to rent a hotel room, which she said she'd also split with me.

Here is where it gets kinda tough. I really want to go and all but I just can't afford it. I've been emailing her telling her that I'm going to make plans and that I'm trying my best to visit. I just really cannot afford it and I have other expenses to pay (personal trainer). I emailed her yesterday and told her that I don't think that I'd be coming. I got to talk to her on the phone today and she was really disappointed. I felt really bad saying that I wanted to come and all and now I just can't. I by no means was leading her on, however, I did tell her I'd do my best to come. I just can't afford it right now.

I know she feels really sad and disappointed. She didn't want to talk about it because it would've made her cry. I just got a couple letters in the mail from her today and those made me really happy. I know I can get through this its just going to be tough. I did however have another plan to kind of make up for this one. I've been thinking about it since before she left, so its not really a make up plan, just sort of a backup (or additional plan if I did go). I was planning to fly up to her house the day before she comes back (shes in NorCal I'm in SoCal but we got to the same school) and surprise her by picking her up at the airport. I think it would really make her happy.

It would cost me with airfare, hotel, and travel expenses well over $500 to go visit her in France and I only have around $900 in the bank, plus I have a hefty sized personal trainer bill to pay off. I feel like I kind of led her on but I had no intentions of doing so. I sent her some letters last week and hopefully those will cheer her up. I know shes having a great time. We just both miss each other really much. Its really hard to be away from the one you love for so long. I get emails from her like 3 times a week (whenever she goes to school) and talk to her 2 times a week.

I guess I'm looking for advice/comments not so much on what to do but what to say to her to make her feel better. I'm going tomorrow to look for a stuffed animal and card to send to her becuase I really feel bad about this. Should I feel really bad or should I just shrug it off as no big deal? I know shes pretty sad and disappointed. I'm just kind of confused on what to do.

Thanks in advance everybody.

09-27-2004, 07:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
BigDonkey2 Insane Location: California	Dilemma on my hands... I have quite a dilemma on my hands. My girlfriend is in France right now for the semester. I've been telling her that I wanted to come visit her and that I would try my best. Well its come down to crunch time and I'm having a tough decision. She told me she would split my airfare with me as an early Christmas present, which was really nice to hear. However, the place she is staying at won't allow overnight visitors to stay, so that means I would have to rent a hotel room, which she said she'd also split with me. Here is where it gets kinda tough. I really want to go and all but I just can't afford it. I've been emailing her telling her that I'm going to make plans and that I'm trying my best to visit. I just really cannot afford it and I have other expenses to pay (personal trainer). I emailed her yesterday and told her that I don't think that I'd be coming. I got to talk to her on the phone today and she was really disappointed. I felt really bad saying that I wanted to come and all and now I just can't. I by no means was leading her on, however, I did tell her I'd do my best to come. I just can't afford it right now. I know she feels really sad and disappointed. She didn't want to talk about it because it would've made her cry. I just got a couple letters in the mail from her today and those made me really happy. I know I can get through this its just going to be tough. I did however have another plan to kind of make up for this one. I've been thinking about it since before she left, so its not really a make up plan, just sort of a backup (or additional plan if I did go). I was planning to fly up to her house the day before she comes back (shes in NorCal I'm in SoCal but we got to the same school) and surprise her by picking her up at the airport. I think it would really make her happy. It would cost me with airfare, hotel, and travel expenses well over $500 to go visit her in France and I only have around $900 in the bank, plus I have a hefty sized personal trainer bill to pay off. I feel like I kind of led her on but I had no intentions of doing so. I sent her some letters last week and hopefully those will cheer her up. I know shes having a great time. We just both miss each other really much. Its really hard to be away from the one you love for so long. I get emails from her like 3 times a week (whenever she goes to school) and talk to her 2 times a week. I guess I'm looking for advice/comments not so much on what to do but what to say to her to make her feel better. I'm going tomorrow to look for a stuffed animal and card to send to her becuase I really feel bad about this. Should I feel really bad or should I just shrug it off as no big deal? I know shes pretty sad and disappointed. I'm just kind of confused on what to do. Thanks in advance everybody.