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hellasnow · 09-26-2004, 09:27 PM

my wife wants to visit a friend of her's, who's male in another state. she met the guy while we were broke up 4-5 years ago. he just came through town a few weeks ago and they went to dinner (which i was and still am fine with) now she wants to go for the weekend to visit him and stay with a girlfriend of his so not staying with him. she says he inspires her writing. i'm not one with words and can't wow her in a way that i'm affraid he might be doing. i've never met him nor talked to him. i trust my wife 120% or i wouldn't have ever married her. i mean seriously i love her dearly and know she feels the same to me, we have a child and trust one another 120%. but i'm worried and don't want her to go, reason being i don't trust him so i fear for her saftey, say he were to try something with her and she not want to then get forceful or something. she says he's a good friend and would never do such a thing, and never has tried anything with her, even back when they met while we wern't together.

this has been a huge argument latley and we've talked extensive about it. she thinks i now don't trust her and that that is the issue, when infact it is not. she says if he were a she i'd be fine with it. which is correct. i just feel i know how men are and think "even as friends" always have that "what if" or "i could have a shot at her sooner or later" thought in the back of their minds.

she just doesn't seem to understand why i don't want her to go and has reversed it all into a i now don't trust her issue, which is way untrue. i trust her very much.

thoughts.....?

thanks

09-26-2004, 09:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
hellasnow Insane	thoughts on wife visiting friend of opposite sex my wife wants to visit a friend of her's, who's male in another state. she met the guy while we were broke up 4-5 years ago. he just came through town a few weeks ago and they went to dinner (which i was and still am fine with) now she wants to go for the weekend to visit him and stay with a girlfriend of his so not staying with him. she says he inspires her writing. i'm not one with words and can't wow her in a way that i'm affraid he might be doing. i've never met him nor talked to him. i trust my wife 120% or i wouldn't have ever married her. i mean seriously i love her dearly and know she feels the same to me, we have a child and trust one another 120%. but i'm worried and don't want her to go, reason being i don't trust him so i fear for her saftey, say he were to try something with her and she not want to then get forceful or something. she says he's a good friend and would never do such a thing, and never has tried anything with her, even back when they met while we wern't together. this has been a huge argument latley and we've talked extensive about it. she thinks i now don't trust her and that that is the issue, when infact it is not. she says if he were a she i'd be fine with it. which is correct. i just feel i know how men are and think "even as friends" always have that "what if" or "i could have a shot at her sooner or later" thought in the back of their minds. she just doesn't seem to understand why i don't want her to go and has reversed it all into a i now don't trust her issue, which is way untrue. i trust her very much. thoughts.....? thanks __________________ "when life looks like easy street..... theres danger at your door." (JG)