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I can definitely relate to this experience; especially lately.
I try to make it a learning experience, and use it to better myself and make sure I am being a good/great friend to those that want me to.
I have often debated "pushing" the friendship; IE, I keep calling/bugging the "friend" in attempts to get things going, but I think that just resolves in a lopsided friendship (I want to be there, they don't), so instead I just let it go, and let what happens happen. I don't recommend "chasing," because it seems to me it's a waste of time. If they don't want to make time for you, accept it and move on, or at least let them start things up again.
I will also agree that there are definitely different "levels" of friends. I have a select few who are very high on my list, but not many. After that it drops off to good, average, and acquaintances. The friends aren't set at their levels, and can move up and down except those on the "very high" list. They generally are consistent; and that's why they are at the top of my list. I don't have a physical list, but am just presenting an example.
Realizing this, I try to be a "top of the list" friend to those that want/allow me to be.
It's interesting to note key/important experiences that arise in life, and see who is there for you, and who bails out. I think these situations are what ultimately let an individual see who their true friends are, and who the "posers" are.
It's a nice feeling to know there are one or two (maybe 3) people out there that really care about me (or you, anyone), all the time, and not just when it's convienent for them. It's also a little depressing to realize there are quite a few acquaintances I can't say that about. But again, it just makes those that are my true friends that much more important to me, so I guess it all works out in the end.
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