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Originally Posted by lurkette
It sounds like you're both just looking for reasons not to trust each other. That, IMHO, is the problem, not faked orgasms or fantasy lovers.
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Perfect analysis.
To respond to the original issue, let me say from a woman's perspective, sometimes,
it just ain't gonna happen. Regardless of the pleasure we got from the attempt, sometimes a climax just isn't there for us. Furthermore, after so much trying, when it's not going to happen - not only is it not going to happen, but trying to make it happen is just plain painful.
Now, a woman telling that to the man who she's having sex with at that moment can cause embarrassment, humiliation, ego-bruising, anger, or any other plethora of harmful emotions. No matter what job a man undertakes, he does so with the intention of getting the job done. We, as women know this.
With that said, it's a lot more simple for a woman to just fake it, let the man know that he did all that was required, and let you both off the hook. It's usually done with the utmost of respect. However, If a woman has to fake ALL the time, or even a majority of the time, I'd say the problems probably run deeper, and there are aspects of the relationship that need to be addressed.
In this case, I think lurkette is correct and there are probably issues that need to be addressed in your relationship anyway.