CityOfAngels

Ok, I'm not asking you to tell me what to do, but rather what you would do in my situation.

When I was in high school, I met two young, beautiful asian girls (one Chinese, one Filipino). These girls considered each other to be best friends. They were both a year behind me, so I lost contact with both of them after I graduated. I re-met the Chinese girl at a gas station, and we started what became a year-long relationship. Throughout that year, I was also re-introduced to my (then) girlfriend's best friend (the Filipino girl).

Everything was fine and dandy, until my girlfriend started doing some really shady things. Although I should've just broken up with her right away, I was in love with her and had the attitude that, "I don't want to break up with her unless I'm absolutely sure the relationship is not salvageable" (I must tell you that this attitude is not the wisest one to have). Well anyways, with the doubts and speculations came my lack of trust for her (another indication to just break it off), so I started talking to her best friend. I woul ask her things like, "Was she really at your house at such and such time," and "What type of things did she tell you to keep secret from me?"

Well, I must tell you that this girl has one of the kindest hearts anyone could have. She was reluctant to tell me anything, because she didn't want to lose her best friend, but due to the fact that what my girlfriend was doing was not only hurting me, but also making our whole relationship one big lie, she spilled the beans. She told me everything. I then went through this 3-month period, trying to save the relationship by giving my girlfriend second chances left and right (another non-wise thing to do), but also becoming more and more unhappy in the relationship.

Now comes the juicy part: My girlfriend's friend started telling me how bored she was of her boyfriend, and how in high school she wished I would talk to her all the time rather than just the Chinese girl (I hardly knew the Filipino girl in high school, but was good friends with the Chinese girl). She then went on, saying how she's attracted to me, and how if we were alone in a room together, she wouldn't be able to resist me.

After FINALLY breaking up with my girlfriend, I would still talk to her best friend every night. One topic we would always talk about is sex; you know, "How many times; With who; spit or swallow; etc." We would both get pretty excited whenever we would talk to each other, so she invited me over to her house one day. I, being a moral-less horn-dog, don't think twice about heading over to her pad.

I get there, and everything just clicks. We're kickin' it like homies (homies who're attracted to each other), and it's like we've known each other forever. After a few hours, she needs to "change" so we go to her room. Sitting on the bed, we talk for awhile, and while she's talking about how artistic her boyfriend is, she pulls out this locket he made for her. I opened it, and it contained a beautiful colored drawing of the both of them hugging, and it said, "I love you."

I looked at that, and I just said, "He really loves you, doesn't he?" She said, "Without a doubt." I couldn't bring myself to do it. I mean, I know how it feels to be cheated on...it makes you feel like the whole world is lying to you. It's the worst feeling anyone could experience, and I'd be damned if I was going to cause it to happen to someone else. So instead of doing what I intended (grabbing her, planting a big wet one on her, and then the porno music starts), I spent the rest of the day convincing her that she already has something good in her man, and that, unless she doesn't love him (she openly claims that she does), she shouldn't be looking elsewhere.

We've been pretty good friends, and eventually she and my ex girlfriend "broke up" over the fact that she ratted her out for me. But now, after I really know her, I'm developing feelings for her. You see, before, it was just *BOING!*. Now it's that, AND I'm starting to really like her. She still comes on to me once in awhile, but I always cut her off by reminding her that she has a boyfriend who loves her very much.

Then there's this other side of me that says, "Hey, if he's not right for her, he's not right for her and you should just GO for it buddy!" So my views on this pretty much go in a circle from "Don't do it! You know how it feels!" to "HIT THAT SHIT MAN! What the heck do you think you're doing, saying no to sex with a beautiful woman!?" and all the way back again.

So, I repeat the question: What would you do if you were in this situation?