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I don't think it's silly that I'm upset about her lying, but I do understand what you are trying to say, lurkette, and agree to an extent.
We talked again this afternoon, and decided that no, she shouldn't have lied about it, and that the specific times she did weren't at all justified but were definately situations that differ greatly from the norm. i.e. They were during times that probably mandated a less communicative response. We also agreed that it should not happen again and that while it did happen, and sucks that it happened, that we should consider it behind us.
The masturbatory practices thing - I told her it's not necessarily pretermined or premeditated that I go in there thinking about someone else, but that it just kind of happens. She doesn't like the fact that I masturbate, because she feels I shouldn't have to, and that it's her job to "take care of me" if I need it, which led to a discussion about spending more quality alone time together. At any rate, I've finally gotten her to realize that our sex life is suffering and I think in the near future there will be some commitment from both parties to rectify that situation.
Thanks again for all your advice. It certainly is appreciated, and your consolations last night when I was so mad were as well.
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