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Aladdin Sane · 09-15-2004, 06:11 PM

WARNING! If you are the romantic type you won't like the truth I am about to tell.

First, being "in love" will only sustain a relationship for a short time. Love, like every emotion, comes and goes with the circumstances of life. Human beings are incapable of sustaining any emotion for a long period of time. It is physically impossible. That's why being "in love" is not enough to maintain a relationship. This is where the rational mind must make its appearance. A commitment to continue in the relationship is what it takes. Lasting love is not an emotion, its a rational choice. obviously, you either haven't made a life-long commitment to her or you have and are now having second thoughts.

Having said that, I have a few questions for you:
How old are you? How old is she? Does she seem to be losing interest in you as well?

I suspect you are less than 20. You will probably have many more girlfriends before you find a wife, so just think of this as a good experience and move on. Yes, of course I know it won't be as easy as that, but truly first or second relationships usually don't last, and you shouldn't beat yourself up over it. That's life.

09-15-2004, 06:11 PM	#5 (permalink)
Aladdin Sane Degenerate Location: San Marvelous	WARNING! If you are the romantic type you won't like the truth I am about to tell. First, being "in love" will only sustain a relationship for a short time. Love, like every emotion, comes and goes with the circumstances of life. Human beings are incapable of sustaining any emotion for a long period of time. It is physically impossible. That's why being "in love" is not enough to maintain a relationship. This is where the rational mind must make its appearance. A commitment to continue in the relationship is what it takes. Lasting love is not an emotion, its a rational choice. obviously, you either haven't made a life-long commitment to her or you have and are now having second thoughts. Having said that, I have a few questions for you: How old are you? How old is she? Does she seem to be losing interest in you as well? I suspect you are less than 20. You will probably have many more girlfriends before you find a wife, so just think of this as a good experience and move on. Yes, of course I know it won't be as easy as that, but truly first or second relationships usually don't last, and you shouldn't beat yourself up over it. That's life. __________________ Ceterum censeo Carthaginem esse delendam. Last edited by Aladdin Sane; 09-15-2004 at 06:14 PM..