gentlesoul43

Stress, anxiety, lack of sleep.. all these can contribute to your lack of hardness or losing it halfway during sex. It's happened to me many times during my last 15 years of sex life. And it's only recently that I figured out that I'm not getting impotent and that I still have my manhood.

I'm still concerned that it will happen again when I try to have sex. But I'm coming to accept that it will happen once in a while, and the less anxious I am about it, the less are the chances of it happening.

There is this one particular girl that I am with where when it happens, it really bothers me. I think she's real sexy and we are great friends and I love everything about her. She's also very desirable and I would say that perhaps I feel a little less confident sexually with her. Also, the fact that we shouldn't be doing it.. all that probably led to the anxiety and hence, sometimes under-performance. I think she prob wonders whether its her. I've tried to reassure her but obviously if this keeps going on, I'm not going to get it anymore. The thing is, I am sooo turned on by her. We have kinky sex and we talk about how we're going to progress it further the next time. Anyway, she's had a change of heart (for reasons unrelated to the above) and maybe we won't be doing it anymore or at least for a while now.

Just relax.. try to get yourself hard and masturbate to regain your confidence.. maybe even get a partner to experiment with.. you'll be back to your old self again. And try not to see it as a long term problem. Judging from the posts here, it happens to some of us but we still keep going.