While we're not a substiture for therapy here, read some of the sexually related posts, especially in the Ladies Lounge, we're not traumatized, in fact, we rather enjoy it, and like it when our partner does to.
The only time sex is traumatic is when it's non-consenual, which, I'm sure you are aware of being the victim of abuse, as long as your parter is willing... and she'd be willing, it's all good... If you can get over that hurdle, you're home free...
