powerclown: Good point. I guess I'm not going to be adding any significant new experiences to her repertoire
It's just that I feel like I'm taking advantage of her. If one has the feeling that _all_ heterosexual sex would be traumatic to the female partner(s), then even though I'm just another brick in the wall, as it were, it's still something I'd like to avoid. I see your point, though. It may be a step for further on in recovery
maleficent: Thank you again. Indeed, therapy is attempting to reach just that end... and that's why sex therapy was recommended. Honestly, I'm excited about the possibilities there... (no, I meant that in the positive sense too
) Being able to get over this issue would be nice. I do have one little contention -- I'm perfectly aware that nice girls can have sex. That prospect doesn't seem to bother me at all, though it seems a little _excessively_ nice. What does bother me, at least emotionally, is the prospect that nice _guys_ can have sex
although I hear that this is generally accepted too.
Well, thank you all for saying what you've said. I think we can all agree that happiness is a thoughtful, encouraging response to a post like this.
Thank you.
(note that I didn't say I _didn't_ have two penises...
j/k)