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CityOfAngels · 09-09-2004, 11:37 PM

Ask yourself some questions:
1) Has she ever cheated on you?
2) Does she purposely talk about other guys to make you jealous?
3) Is she just as insecure as you are about your relationship?
4) Does she ever lie to you (yes, "small lies" count)?

If you've answered yes to any of these, then I'd say there's a possibility that you have something to worry about. The best thing to do in this situation is to be completely honest about your worries and take a break. Tell her you're skeptical, and give her reasons why you're skeptical. During your break, she has a choice to either not do what she's doing that makes you so skeptical or to move on to someone else. Don't expect either situation from her; she can very well move on, but remember, if she's not right for you, then it's best for her to move on.

If you haven't answered yes to any of those questions, then, although there is always a possibility of her not being faithful, you need to trust her. If you can't trust her, then you need to end it. At least take a break, tell her why, and don't get back together with her until you can conciously decide to start trusting her.

My big point is this: Honesty and trust are the backbones of any relationship. In both possible cases; if she's not honest with you, or if you can't bring yourself to trust her, the relationship will only become more and more deleterious to you, her, and ultimately itself. It's best to not continue a relationship than to be in one that is in a downward spiral.

I hope the best for you and her. If she is dishonest but eventually rights her wrongs, by all means get back with her. If you're just insecure for no reasons on her part, but can eventually bring yourself to trust her, get back with her.

09-09-2004, 11:37 PM	#6 (permalink)
CityOfAngels Oh shit it's Wayne Brady! Location: Passenger seat of Wayne Brady's car.	Ask yourself some questions: 1) Has she ever cheated on you? 2) Does she purposely talk about other guys to make you jealous? 3) Is she just as insecure as you are about your relationship? 4) Does she ever lie to you (yes, "small lies" count)? If you've answered yes to any of these, then I'd say there's a possibility that you have something to worry about. The best thing to do in this situation is to be completely honest about your worries and take a break. Tell her you're skeptical, and give her reasons why you're skeptical. During your break, she has a choice to either not do what she's doing that makes you so skeptical or to move on to someone else. Don't expect either situation from her; she can very well move on, but remember, if she's not right for you, then it's best for her to move on. If you haven't answered yes to any of those questions, then, although there is always a possibility of her not being faithful, you need to trust her. If you can't trust her, then you need to end it. At least take a break, tell her why, and don't get back together with her until you can conciously decide to start trusting her. My big point is this: Honesty and trust are the backbones of any relationship. In both possible cases; if she's not honest with you, or if you can't bring yourself to trust her, the relationship will only become more and more deleterious to you, her, and ultimately itself. It's best to not continue a relationship than to be in one that is in a downward spiral. I hope the best for you and her. If she is dishonest but eventually rights her wrongs, by all means get back with her. If you're just insecure for no reasons on her part, but can eventually bring yourself to trust her, get back with her.