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Originally Posted by Meier_Link
Well, last night I went and hung out with him at a mutual friend's house. It went alright, he's obviously pretty depressed, but what else is new. I've decided I'll offer him advice if he needs it, hang out with him some, but I'm not doing him any big favors. If he needs someone to talk to, fine; if he needs a place to stay or to find work, he's on his own.
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Well, respectfully, it's easy to say that you won't let him worm his way in--but in his mind, you may have already let him get his foot in the door. Since you didn't make your terms clear to him--from what I can glean--you're more willing to bend than I think you realize. I've had problems in the past with being too passive in a given situation, so this is familiar territory. You have to verbally establish boundaries, instead of just making a promise to yourself.
Hope that helps
