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la petite moi · 09-09-2004, 05:41 PM

So, there are many wise and experienced people here, and I thought I would ask you all your opinion.

Now, I know the rule is not to whine about your parents, so I'm not going to make them the main point here.

In the last week, I've been training for my job as a Barista at Starbucks.

I'm very glad to have finally gotten my first job. I have also been going to six college classes for a total of 13.5 units (Philosophy, Economics, Art, Yoga, Student Planning, and Health). Anyway, I've been working very hard and diligently, but my parents and sister do not realise this. After a whole day at school and work with no break yesterday, and getting home at 21h, my dad confronts me and tells me that I need to take care of the chores that my mother has been neglecting (she doesn't have a job) because she's been on vacation. He says that because I don't do my mother's 'jobs' around the house, I am not acting like an adult. And, of course, this is because my sister (16 years old) is completely messy and can't/won't clean anything worth beans anyway. Anyway, enough of my complaining- like Cynthetiq said: "Their house, their rules..." And as I say that, I come to the second part of my point.

So today, I really started contemplating moving out. My mother tried to make me feel bad (and succeeded) by saying that her friend's son (19 years old) has already moved out, has had a job for a couple years, and is going to college. Anyway, so I figure that if I'm working at Starbucks and going to college for the rest of this year, I could save up some money. Then, come next year, here is my plan: Move into an apartment with my boyfriend in San Jose, get financial aid for SJSU, transfer all my credits from a year at community college to SJSU, and transfer to a Starbucks near to our apartment. nwlinkvxd has a car for long-distance travelling and in San Jose I could ride my bike WAY more easily than I could in my current town I live in. Of course, we would have to get his parents' 'blessing' because they are basically paying completely for him right now- for his car, food, apartment, school, and miscellaneous fun things he wants.

Now, after this huge long post, what do you think I should do? Should I start becoming independent next school year? Or should I stay two years in my current town and then go to a more prestigious (or rather, expensive) school (UC Berkeley is what I'm thinking, but my dad doesn't really approve because he thinks its for hippies and wackos) my parents want me to go to, but still remain under their reign for four years?

09-09-2004, 05:41 PM	#1 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	Should I Move Out? So, there are many wise and experienced people here, and I thought I would ask you all your opinion. Now, I know the rule is not to whine about your parents, so I'm not going to make them the main point here. In the last week, I've been training for my job as a Barista at Starbucks. I'm very glad to have finally gotten my first job. I have also been going to six college classes for a total of 13.5 units (Philosophy, Economics, Art, Yoga, Student Planning, and Health). Anyway, I've been working very hard and diligently, but my parents and sister do not realise this. After a whole day at school and work with no break yesterday, and getting home at 21h, my dad confronts me and tells me that I need to take care of the chores that my mother has been neglecting (she doesn't have a job) because she's been on vacation. He says that because I don't do my mother's 'jobs' around the house, I am not acting like an adult. And, of course, this is because my sister (16 years old) is completely messy and can't/won't clean anything worth beans anyway. Anyway, enough of my complaining- like Cynthetiq said: "Their house, their rules..." And as I say that, I come to the second part of my point. So today, I really started contemplating moving out. My mother tried to make me feel bad (and succeeded) by saying that her friend's son (19 years old) has already moved out, has had a job for a couple years, and is going to college. Anyway, so I figure that if I'm working at Starbucks and going to college for the rest of this year, I could save up some money. Then, come next year, here is my plan: Move into an apartment with my boyfriend in San Jose, get financial aid for SJSU, transfer all my credits from a year at community college to SJSU, and transfer to a Starbucks near to our apartment. nwlinkvxd has a car for long-distance travelling and in San Jose I could ride my bike WAY more easily than I could in my current town I live in. Of course, we would have to get his parents' 'blessing' because they are basically paying completely for him right now- for his car, food, apartment, school, and miscellaneous fun things he wants. Now, after this huge long post, what do you think I should do? Should I start becoming independent next school year? Or should I stay two years in my current town and then go to a more prestigious (or rather, expensive) school (UC Berkeley is what I'm thinking, but my dad doesn't really approve because he thinks its for hippies and wackos) my parents want me to go to, but still remain under their reign for four years? Last edited by la petite moi; 09-09-2004 at 05:44 PM..