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raeanna74 · 09-09-2004, 04:14 PM

Ouch. It sounds a bit like my mother getting confused about stuff and then accusing me of things I never intended to be the case. It's frustrating to say the least.

First thing that comes to my mind is this: Have you looked into buying or leasing a car of your own ON your own? Really look into this. One VERY good rule of thumb, once you are an adult is to NEVER do business with family. I on occaision do work for my Dad. It does cause some tension at times though when I do. I only do it when he REALLY needs help or when an unexpected bill comes up or something. I avoid it as much as possible. I know it can be difficult to get credit in some cases but leasing might be easier than buying. This can help build your credit record as well. I would definately suggest looking into it.

As for immediate advice: I would suggest that you appease your mother as much as you can. Even if you feel she was wrong in complaining to your sister. Let her know that you never intended to renig on the payments, explain your reasons for asking for a little cooperation, once more. If she complains again, Explain again. Make it clear that she is taking things the wrong way. Let her know that you feel it was an immature act to call your sister and complain to her. Maybe even ask your mother "Did you really want to put (your sis) into the middle of this?? I don't think that was a wise choice, or kind to (your sis)? Please call me personally if you have a problem with anything I do in the future. I promise to do what I can to do right by you and Dad?" Let her know that she handled this wrong but that you are willing to work with her to get the situation set to right. Don't say anything about ending your business arrangement at this time. She may take it personally if you mention that. Save that until you find out your other options. I'm sure you can find something that will help you manage on your own. Then you can approach then with "Thank you for your help with my driving arrangements so far. I don't want to burden you and have found my own arrangements. If you need any help selling the car that you have or anything please let me know."

I don't know if this will apply for your situation. Hope it helps.

09-09-2004, 04:14 PM	#2 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	Ouch. It sounds a bit like my mother getting confused about stuff and then accusing me of things I never intended to be the case. It's frustrating to say the least. First thing that comes to my mind is this: Have you looked into buying or leasing a car of your own ON your own? Really look into this. One VERY good rule of thumb, once you are an adult is to NEVER do business with family. I on occaision do work for my Dad. It does cause some tension at times though when I do. I only do it when he REALLY needs help or when an unexpected bill comes up or something. I avoid it as much as possible. I know it can be difficult to get credit in some cases but leasing might be easier than buying. This can help build your credit record as well. I would definately suggest looking into it. As for immediate advice: I would suggest that you appease your mother as much as you can. Even if you feel she was wrong in complaining to your sister. Let her know that you never intended to renig on the payments, explain your reasons for asking for a little cooperation, once more. If she complains again, Explain again. Make it clear that she is taking things the wrong way. Let her know that you feel it was an immature act to call your sister and complain to her. Maybe even ask your mother "Did you really want to put (your sis) into the middle of this?? I don't think that was a wise choice, or kind to (your sis)? Please call me personally if you have a problem with anything I do in the future. I promise to do what I can to do right by you and Dad?" Let her know that she handled this wrong but that you are willing to work with her to get the situation set to right. Don't say anything about ending your business arrangement at this time. She may take it personally if you mention that. Save that until you find out your other options. I'm sure you can find something that will help you manage on your own. Then you can approach then with "Thank you for your help with my driving arrangements so far. I don't want to burden you and have found my own arrangements. If you need any help selling the car that you have or anything please let me know." I don't know if this will apply for your situation. Hope it helps. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.