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water_boy1999 · 09-08-2004, 10:11 AM

Here's the story.....
I met this gal a few weeks ago and we have been hanging out. We enjoy each others company and I could see hanging out even more with her. We went to the Prince concert last weekend and she ended up crashing at my place. I also stayed at her place the other night. We haven't done the nasty yet, which would be nice since she is freaking HOT, but I decided to wait for several reasons. For one, it is a new relationship and the friendship should be a foundation.

Secondly, she has casually brought up the fact that she "is sick". She told me that she spend 3 days a week at the doctor but she "is almost done". She also says that she "is not contagious" and I have nothing to worry about. However, this is all she tells me and won't tell me anything more. She tells me that it is private and doesn't want to share that info. She then asked if that was selfish of her and I told her it was. It is, damnit!
Here is my logic:
Being a new relationship, for lack of better words, you would think she would either tell me she is sick and let me know what I am in store for, or not tell me anything yet and keep it to herself until she is ready to tell me.

Now, I have all these thoughts of how she could be sick: She says it is not contagious which leads me to belive it is not some mental disorder that she is being treated for, but if I am to accept her for who she is, I should have some reasonable idea of who she is and what she is going through.

Now, I know some of the answers are going to be, "Be patient, if you really like her then you can wait".....well fuck that! I don't want to stick around to find out she has something going on in her life that puts a damper on us moving forward.

I tried to have a discussion with her about it, but being that we are so new into dating, I haven't tried to pressure the info out of her. I am not sure how I will pursue the situation currently as I don't want to stop seeing her. But I do want to know what is up. I know people have things they keep from other people when first getting to know them, but if this is the cse, perhaps she should have never told me that she was sick in the firstplace.

Thoughts?

09-08-2004, 10:11 AM	#1 (permalink)
water_boy1999 Fly em straight! Location: Above and Beyond	"It's really kind of private...." Here's the story..... I met this gal a few weeks ago and we have been hanging out. We enjoy each others company and I could see hanging out even more with her. We went to the Prince concert last weekend and she ended up crashing at my place. I also stayed at her place the other night. We haven't done the nasty yet, which would be nice since she is freaking HOT, but I decided to wait for several reasons. For one, it is a new relationship and the friendship should be a foundation. Secondly, she has casually brought up the fact that she "is sick". She told me that she spend 3 days a week at the doctor but she "is almost done". She also says that she "is not contagious" and I have nothing to worry about. However, this is all she tells me and won't tell me anything more. She tells me that it is private and doesn't want to share that info. She then asked if that was selfish of her and I told her it was. It is, damnit! Here is my logic: Being a new relationship, for lack of better words, you would think she would either tell me she is sick and let me know what I am in store for, or not tell me anything yet and keep it to herself until she is ready to tell me. Now, I have all these thoughts of how she could be sick: She says it is not contagious which leads me to belive it is not some mental disorder that she is being treated for, but if I am to accept her for who she is, I should have some reasonable idea of who she is and what she is going through. Now, I know some of the answers are going to be, "Be patient, if you really like her then you can wait".....well fuck that! I don't want to stick around to find out she has something going on in her life that puts a damper on us moving forward. I tried to have a discussion with her about it, but being that we are so new into dating, I haven't tried to pressure the info out of her. I am not sure how I will pursue the situation currently as I don't want to stop seeing her. But I do want to know what is up. I know people have things they keep from other people when first getting to know them, but if this is the cse, perhaps she should have never told me that she was sick in the firstplace. Thoughts? __________________ Doh!!!! -Homer Simpson Last edited by water_boy1999; 09-08-2004 at 12:55 PM..