maleficent

Safe words are also part of the D/s fantasy for when it gets to be too much for either party. Did you talk out why you needed to stop? Every person had a limit, a place where they can't or won't go. Maybe you found one of your limits.

You are both new at this lifestyle, you are both learning.

Read up on it and try it again.

Putting yourself into a completely submissive position is about completely trusting your partner, and he's got to earn that trust. He's on his way to earning it by stopping it when you requested. Try again doing something less embarassing to you.

I don't think there's a book called D/s for Dummies, so it's going to be a learning process for both of you - -just do what feels right for you. Don't worry about what you THINK the lifestyle is.

Being sexually submissive is done because you receive pleasure from it, not because it's what you think he wants. There's a book that explores the that lifestyle, which is interesting reading, pick up a copy, it's called something like Screw the Roses, Send me the thorns or something like that...

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