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Originally Posted by little_tippler
Sometimes I'm positive about things and I think, no matter how many differences there might be between people, there's always basic things we have in common, that will bring us together eventually. But then sometimes I'm so negative that I just hate everyone outside of myself, because I think more and more so in western society, people isolate themselves and become sociopaths.
At the end of the day I look at other people and I see blank faces and can read nothing into them. And I think I am a very easy going person, because (and I don't want to be in any way imodest) I have learnt throughout my life that it is so very important to listen to others, take their views/feelings into account, and generally that arguing for arguing's sake is so pointless when all you have is one short life to live. But I always seem to be hitting walls.
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I spend every morning while driving to school thinking this same thing.
I've realized that I have two basic problems:
1.) I always tend to assume that people think the way I do. (they don't... or do they? I honestly don't know for sure)
2.) That there exists someone that <b><i>isn't</i></b> clueless about people.
When I see someone finish up a drink from a soda can, for example, I immediately assume that they are going to toss the can into the trash. When I see them toss it onto the floor, that is when I feel I don't understand this person.
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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
Bad behavior is just that and those that "do the right thing" will never understand the selfishness that it takes to be such an asshole.
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In college, the socially active (over overactive) people (e.g. fratboys and sorority girls) "seem" to "get" people; that is why they are able to socialize so freely... or is this completely untrue? Whenever I am exposed to this scene, I again find myself feeling the that tremendous lack of understanding. So why is it that these people can interact so easily with others, and not I? I have a tendency to assume that others know things I don't, things that are patently obvious--do these partygoers know something I don't?
It just seems to me that everyone suffers from this same anxiety, Tippler, some are just better at ignoring it than others.
I am actually extremely interested in the topic of this thread, because it relates directly to my daily thought process, so I feel I must add a bit more.
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Originally Posted by little_tippler
We have access to so many things, people, situations, too many in fact, but it seems to have the reverse effect on truly knowing other people.
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I completely agree. I have a problem with the way communication works presently. I think we value communication with other people a lot less than someone from say 100 years ago would, who wrote a letter to a friend, and is waiting for a response. Receiving a response must have been a major delight, and I bet when they did receive a letter they'd read it over and over. Nowadays with cellphones and instant messaging, communication is so accessible that even when we have nothing to say, we still send instant messages though chat clients and initiate aimless phonecalls with friends over cellphones.
I might add some other stuff later.