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Wow...sounds like a chapter out of my life right about now.
I'm going through the same thing. We're both single, good friends (and were always affectionate), and one night stuff just...happened. Now, I love her as a friend, and I've spent the past week trying to convince myself that that's the only kind that I feel for her. She, likewise, is avoiding me because she feels too strongly for me, and doesn't want to fall in love (might I add that I'm leaving this area in a week).
Anyway, I've found in past relationships that time apart is probably the best, and quickest, way to end feelings for another. It might hurt, but it'll get better. Now, if you want to remain friends, you've got to still stay in her life, but don't stalk her. Call her no more or less than you would any of your guy friends. Hang out once a week. Don't try to seduce her and, for the love of god, don't sleep with her (I know it's tempting, but those kinds of fuck buddy relationships never really end well).
Let's summize, shall we? If you can see yourself, five years down the line, happily attending her wedding (to someone other than you), then you should stay friends. If the thought of that makes you want to rip your innards out, then perhaps you should let her drift out of your life.
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"I've made only one mistake in my life. But I made it over and over and over. That was saying 'yes' when I meant 'no'. Forgive me."
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