I would like to share my relationship situation with you, get some feedback, see what others think.
We met at a nightclub like a month and a half ago. We talked and eventually exchanged saliva and phone numbers. This was on a saturday night. For information: she's 28, I'm 26.
We meet up again on the following wednesday. We have dinner at her house cause the weather is shit and we don't feel like going into town. Anyways, we end up in bed, and its all good. Great sex.
I see her again on Friday evening. Its all good. We talk and get along quite well.
The thing is she was leaving on a 3 and half week vacation with a girlfriend of hers the following monday, so that meant not seeing eachother very much and stuff. Not seeing her sucked, but I was otherwise okay with her going on vacation. Anyways, during her vacation she emails me a couple times (phoning and emailing were all quite difficult where she was). And she's come back a week ago (on a Thursday). She called me in the evening when she got back home and I went over to her house; I spent the night. We see eachother during the weekend as well.
Then we arrange to meet yesterday. I go to her house and she says she wants to talk about us. She says she doesn't feel like she's falling in love with me. And she doesn't think its going to happen either. I agreed that I wasn't head over heels about her either. She mentions that she enjoys having a boyfriend, but isn't really enthusiastic about us two as she had been in the past with relationships (she had like 2 or 3 relationships before me, been single for more than a year before she met me). And she said she was also quite happy with her life being single.
So we kinda decide to hang out as friends. We have dinner toghether that evening and I don't really think about it too much anymore... I'm just enjoying her company. We don't really touch eachother after the earlier conversation, except later in the evening, and we end up in bed again.
Fast forward to today. I'm back home and it starts nagging at me: I guess I care for her more than I thought I did. The thought of not being able to see her in the future is depressing. I think we'd make a great couple. And I start thinking how its weird that she decided within those 2 weeks that we've seen eachother (one week before her vacation and one after) about 7 or 8 times, she decides that she isn't going to fall in love with me and wants to... not see me anymore?
So now I wonder if there's something wrong with me... Maybe I bore her? It doesn't seem that way. We talk about lots of stuff, and have a lot of things in common.
It seems unlikely that anything happened during the vacation. I mean, I'm pretty sure she didn't hook up with anyone there. So I don't think there's someone else.
But at the same time I get the feeling as if the "I don't think I'm gonna fall in love with you" is perhaps an excuse?
Anyways, I'm gonna talk to her some more and try to find out whats going on. Do you people agree that 2 weeks is a little short to decide if a relationship is going to work out or not? If we didn't get along or if we had nothing to say to eachother, yeah, you can decide that quickly, but I thought things were going great...
I guess I'll keep you updated as I talk to her. Sorry this got a little long.