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CityOfAngels · 08-19-2004, 12:54 AM

My co-worker is 36 and I turn 20 tomorrow (August 20th). A joker as always, he asked me, "Hey, wanna know something messed up? If I were to date a girl 8 years younger than me, that would be ok. But if you were to do the same thing, well, that would be SICK!" I couldn't agree with him more. But it had me thinking...

Recently, I was hit on by a 16 year old girl. At first glance, she could very well be up to 21 years old. She had a strong, seemingly mature posture; she had huge breasts (which I couldn't take my eyes off of, God bless my soul); she was beautiful, and she acted mature. When I asked her her age, she immediately looked down at the ground, as if she knew right then and there that I was going to say no, and said, "I'm only 16." Before I could get a word out, she ran off and I never saw her since.

Even though she was probably correct in her assumption, it broke my heart. Here was this girl that I was physically attracted to, and was seemingly mature enough to become emotionally attracted to, and all I could think of is my friends telling me, "17 will get you 25!" Apparently she is a friend of one of the guys I play basketball with, and when I asked about her, the rest of the guys jokingly shouted, "Oh hey it's R. Kelly!"

I've had this problem even in high school. When I was a 17-year-old Senior, I dated a 14-going-on-15 year old Freshman. My friends would always joke around by calling me "The Child Molester" and saying "When I have kids, and if they're girls, you ain't comin' over to my house!" I broke up with her, but thankfully it wasn't due to peer pressure (but now that I think about it, it could've played a huge factor); when she told me she doesn't think kissing another guy is cheating, I knew right away that she wasn't for me.

College came around, and I was 18. This 16 year old girl whom I used to always say "Hi" to in high school began taking a strong interest in me. She came over to watch Pink Floyd's The Wall, and when she said, "Hey, that rose looks like a pussy. Wanna see mine to compare?", it was on.

I dunno. I know my friends were joking when they called me "R. Kelly" and "The Child Molester," but something had to have gone through their minds to make that connection. My question isn't "What IS socially acceptable," but rather "What SHOULD be socially acceptable when it comes to age and relationships?" Was I wrong to plan on turning that 16 year old girl down? Or was my defensiveness against the law, AKA what IS socially acceptable, a reasonable basis for my actions?

If you wish, please share your own stories regarding this issue.

08-19-2004, 12:54 AM	#1 (permalink)
CityOfAngels Oh shit it's Wayne Brady! Location: Passenger seat of Wayne Brady's car.	What are your opinions on age difference? My co-worker is 36 and I turn 20 tomorrow (August 20th). A joker as always, he asked me, "Hey, wanna know something messed up? If I were to date a girl 8 years younger than me, that would be ok. But if you were to do the same thing, well, that would be SICK!" I couldn't agree with him more. But it had me thinking... Recently, I was hit on by a 16 year old girl. At first glance, she could very well be up to 21 years old. She had a strong, seemingly mature posture; she had huge breasts (which I couldn't take my eyes off of, God bless my soul); she was beautiful, and she acted mature. When I asked her her age, she immediately looked down at the ground, as if she knew right then and there that I was going to say no, and said, "I'm only 16." Before I could get a word out, she ran off and I never saw her since. Even though she was probably correct in her assumption, it broke my heart. Here was this girl that I was physically attracted to, and was seemingly mature enough to become emotionally attracted to, and all I could think of is my friends telling me, "17 will get you 25!" Apparently she is a friend of one of the guys I play basketball with, and when I asked about her, the rest of the guys jokingly shouted, "Oh hey it's R. Kelly!" I've had this problem even in high school. When I was a 17-year-old Senior, I dated a 14-going-on-15 year old Freshman. My friends would always joke around by calling me "The Child Molester" and saying "When I have kids, and if they're girls, you ain't comin' over to my house!" I broke up with her, but thankfully it wasn't due to peer pressure (but now that I think about it, it could've played a huge factor); when she told me she doesn't think kissing another guy is cheating, I knew right away that she wasn't for me. College came around, and I was 18. This 16 year old girl whom I used to always say "Hi" to in high school began taking a strong interest in me. She came over to watch Pink Floyd's The Wall, and when she said, "Hey, that rose looks like a pussy. Wanna see mine to compare?", it was on. I dunno. I know my friends were joking when they called me "R. Kelly" and "The Child Molester," but something had to have gone through their minds to make that connection. My question isn't "What IS socially acceptable," but rather "What SHOULD be socially acceptable when it comes to age and relationships?" Was I wrong to plan on turning that 16 year old girl down? Or was my defensiveness against the law, AKA what IS socially acceptable, a reasonable basis for my actions? If you wish, please share your own stories regarding this issue.