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Wow - I wish her the best. That's a tough place to be in no matter what she's caused herself. I hope she will see that she doesn't HAVE to stay with this looser.
Adoption is something I would really suggest. I'm not saying she wants to "loose" her baby. Hubby's birth Mom was very young when she concieved. She gave him up for adoption and he went home from the hospital with the parents he has known all his life. They were open with him and expressed to him that it wasn't because he was unwanted but that she wanted the best for him. They CHOSE to take him home with them and showed him how much they loved him. About 5 years ago hubby's parents contacted a mutual friend of theirs and the birth mom. They'd never met her and did not know who she was. Their friend contacted her and asked if she wanted to meet hubby and his future wife. She did. We met. And she keeps in contact with us sending Christmas and Birthday cards and talking to hubby's Mom on the phone every now and then. The situation has turned out the best it could have for everyone.
It's a sad state to be in but there is hope for her and she doesn't have to turn to someone who is unreliable, selfish, jealous, and dangerous for her. I hope she sees that at least.
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