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Originally posted by st33lr4t
...why am i so stressed out about being without a SO. knowing that i have a SO just puts me at ease even if the relationship isnt that great. i have no idea why i have such a high importance on having a SO. im the type of guy that does everything against societies wishes yet the absence of a SO bothers me.
ive lived most of my 27yrs with a g/f. i was dependant on all my previous g/f's to make me happy. i was always concerned about being somone who i thought they wanted me to be instead of just being me. now that i have this free energy i really do not want anyone in my life right now. ive had this 'thing' with this amazing girl recently...i really cant see any reason why we shouldnt be together. i find myself torn between wanting to be in a relationship with her yet i dont want to be tied down. and by tied down i dont mean i want to date other people...i just want to do what i want when i want without considering her. ive always considered others before myself so now its my turn.
so ya...im not sure why i have this NEED to have a SO.
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I think you answer your own question here when you say you're dependent on them to be happy. Like maleficent said, you need validation but more specifically, you need self-validation through external sources such as other people (especially girlfriends). Take the time for yourself for awhile.. You said you don't want to be tied down and it seems like you've pretty much been in relationships all your life. Take a break to call your own. You might learn a lot and become a better person. Or at least yourself.
That doesn't mean you can't still keep this girl as a friend though. And maybe later on, she'll become special.
I've always thought relationships are more fulfilling when they're built on friendship afterall. I wouldn't want to marry anyone I don't consider my best friend...