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08-09-2004, 02:37 PM
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Submit to me, you know you want to
Location: Lilburn, Ga
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habit....You've been so used to having someone that its hard for you to adjust without one. Look at it from the standpoint that now are ARE free to do things without considering anyone else. There is nothing that says you cant "date" dating can be fun when done right....as long as you consider said girl DURING the date.
There seems to be a terrible tendancy in people that they either conciously or subconciously think they are less of a person if they dont have a siamese twin at all times. Take this time to get to know YOURSELF, figure the things you really like, the things you dont really like....hang out and be sociable, make friends etc....you are NOT less of a person because you dont have a female attached to you!!!!
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08-09-2004, 04:13 PM
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Drifting
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Location: Windy City
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Your first step seems to be finding a way to make yourself happy that does not rely on other people. Only then, the absence of a S/O will still be missed, but it will not be a need. When you do end up with a S/O again, your relationship will be that much more healthy because you have you have established who YOU are, and the new person only helps to enhance that feeling, not create it.
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08-12-2004, 08:25 AM
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Junkie
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Location: Chicago
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08-12-2004, 07:45 PM
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Post-modernism meets Individualism AKA the Clash
Location: oregon
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I think you answer your own question here when you say you're dependent on them to be happy. Like maleficent said, you need validation but more specifically, you need self-validation through external sources such as other people (especially girlfriends). Take the time for yourself for awhile.. You said you don't want to be tied down and it seems like you've pretty much been in relationships all your life. Take a break to call your own. You might learn a lot and become a better person. Or at least yourself.  That doesn't mean you can't still keep this girl as a friend though. And maybe later on, she'll become special.  I've always thought relationships are more fulfilling when they're built on friendship afterall. I wouldn't want to marry anyone I don't consider my best friend...
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