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Listen, if you're serious about only having sex with the person you want to marry and/or are married to, do NOT do it with this girl.
I don't care how much you think you love each other, BoCo's right. The chances of this relationship lasting are pretty small. Not because I doubt your feelings for each other so much as the fact that you WILL change as people in the next 5 years. Not to mention that, statistically, people who get married before the age of (I think) 24 (maybe 26, I don't remember exactly) have a MUCH higher rate of divorce. Worry about your life right now - your career, your schooling, your financial stability, etc. When all that is taken care of, THEN consider marriage and, thusly, if you really want to wait for the "right" person, you can then consider having sex.
I speak from experience because I know it's hard - onodrim and I have been seeing eachother for 3.5 years now, and both of us want to wait until we're married. But if it's really important to you then you've got to keep what I've said in mind, and if it's too hard when you're alone and busy doing "not sex" things, then perhaps you need to partake in those activities less and cool it down a little. I mean, if you can wait until you're married for sex, you can wait for other things as well. And, again, I speak from personal experience.
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