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Basically, you're leaving for college and won't be seeing these people for some time. And when you do, it won't be for very long. Given this, I wouldn't tell her that you'd like to be with her. Keep that to yourself because you're about to enter into a whole different world, with a completely different set of people, and you are about to become a somewhat different person. You will find someone else. Someone who will be more fitting for who you will become as opposed to someone who fits you right now.
But as a friend to her, I think you should tell her that she shouldn't be with this guy. And as MrSelfDestruct said, ADD doesn't cause people to be jerks. He's just a jerk. Maleficent's idea is a good one, but you're not going to be around to document such treatment. If I were in your place I'd say something along the lines of:
"I've known you for a long time, we're pretty good friends, and I'm about to leave. As your friend, I feel obliged to say that this guy you're with is bad news. He might be a great guy with redeeming qualities, but he doesn't treat you how you deserve to be treated. You're being treated very poorly and it pains me to see it because you're so much better than that. Don't get sucked into this guy's life. And I just want you to know that if you ever need some friendly support, feel free to call me or visit me anytime."
I understand how you feel. I had a crazy crush on a friend from high school when I went off to college, and the following year she hooked up with some guy who had a lot of qualities that really jived with the type of person she was, but at the drop of a dime could be a complete asshole to her for no apparent (or some incredibly stupid) reason. And just because there were no physical bruises doesn't mean that it wasn't abuse. After she went elsewhere for college and broke up with the guy, it took her a good while to really recuperate from the whole ordeal.
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