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Originally posted by Dale Kemp
Cheat means breaking a commitment made mutually. Well, you aren't married. Are you sure you had a committed relationship, or were you just "hanging" together when you were in the same town?
There's an old saying: "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." That's true for a week or two, and then it makes the heart heal and move on. You two spend months apart, and a few weeks a year together. What kind of relationship is that?
If you want to bond, get together. Either marry or at least find a way to live near one another and date steadily. If you aren't doing that, then love one another without commitment, and recognize that there is no cheating, 'cause there is no commitment to fidelity.
Some of the folks who blog here regularly have no commitment to fidelity marriages. They still seem to love one another. I wonder if your sense of being cheated on comes from a need to feel in control of her love for you?
Examine your deeper feelings, and you'll learn a lot. When you choose to enter a commited relationship, then don't move apart. OK????
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Ok just one thing: Just because he wants an exclusive relationship does not mean he is a control freak that wants to control her love for him. Maybe he just wants it all to himself, like he gives all of his to her exclusively.
There is way too much hostility to exclusive, commited relationships on this forum. I find the idea of a non-commited non-exculsive relationship revolting, and its not something that I will ever be able to live with. That does not make me a control freak.
This guy's feelings on this matter are 100% valid. I doubt he was accidentally in a non-commited relationship. I have no idea how that could be.