raeanna74

Ah HAH. That's me all the way. My Dr change my pills to something with a very low estrogen dose. The change in estrogen level gave me migranes during menstration. She also put me on iron suppliments that I HAVE to take during mentration or I've seen that I get headaches. The lower estrogen dose with a higher progesterone dose seemed to really increase my libido. That along with hubby NOT pressuring me at all helped a lot. There were a couple times that he promised to just cuddle and touch me with no pressure for actual sex at all. That made me feel like being much more intimate in other ways. Definately have her find different pills. It will be worth it just for her to get rid of her headaches. I am on seasonale and love it. I only have to worry about headaches 4 times a year and since I know that my mild anemia and low blood pressure contribute to them I can take Iron suppliments and I have Maxalt to help with my migranes. The Maxalt actually works by raising blood pressure - mine it has raised up to 10 points top and bottom. But I need it and it works wonders.

Also what's her life like? She home alone with the kids 24/7. She work every day full time and then come home to a messy house? Work kills my libido faster than anything else. Worry too. If she's got a lot of pressure to perform at work, clean house, and take care of kids those things could be making her less interested in play.

I personally wouldn't worry about trying to find porn. If she's as conservative as you say she may feel guilty about viewing it and it wouldn't be much of a turn on.

Find ways of doing things with her now. Also TALK to her. LISTEN even more. Ask her questions when you're not in bed about what she likes to do. Be patient. As she opens up and finds a receptive caring audience she will just blossom. It will be worth you're while I'm sure.

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