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Originally posted by xim
I have a different perspective. Ive been through this exact situation.... I look at it as a lesson in having game. You sound like you really want her back but have given up on it.
Ill tutor you... 
So our battle plan has to deal with you seeing her.
You both still like each other, the problem is that she doesn't realize it. You broke up (sounds more like she broke up with you). But if you still talk all the time then she still wants an emotional relationship with you. She only closed the physical relationship.
To girls everything is a game. You worshipped her and so she didnt have to earn your approval anymore....GAME OVER. I know you probably think she is so wonderful that she would never think like that, but for girls this isnt a concious thing, its just the way they are, and most dont even understand it.
You are still worshipping her and shes sucking it up like a sponge even though she isn't being physical with you.
You need to respect yourself. Youre saying its your fault and your heart isn't that important so you can continue to worship her after she hurt you.
She obviously likes you still.
If you want to get back together with her you have to start acting totally indifferent towards her. So far you have been an approval slut to her, just handing it out no matter what she does.
That actually gives you an advantage though, because in a sense she is addicted to your attention. And just like the forein aid the US gives to small nations all over the world, you can jerk it right out from under them if they arent doing what you want.
Act TOTALLY INDIFFERENT to her. Pretend like shes totally unfascinating no matter how bass ackwards that feels. Dont be rude or mean but act as if you would just assume be anywhere else as with her. Hopefully, (and most likely judgeing from how shes been acting towards you) she will start to think, "whats the matter with me?" Drag it out for a while longer than feels necessary so she really gets a feel for how much she wants you...
Good luck
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You get it. I am an approval slut... Don't look at me, I'm a monster
I do feel that I could be with her again. So you're saying, try not to act like I'm head over heels in love with her? So she will like me more? Isn't that kind of grade five?
I'd also like to add that Maleficent has given some great advice. Thank you very much.