I have a different perspective. Ive been through this exact situation.... I look at it as a lesson in having game. You sound like you really want her back but have given up on it.
Ill tutor you...
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Originally posted by punkmusicfan21
The distance thing can't happen. We work together but it's a job where I can't avoid her.
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So our battle plan has to deal with you seeing her.
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It's a summer camp and we both counsell full time so I see her every morning, every afternoon, every night, we get up every morning and walk together to the morning meeting. She goes out of her way to talk to me and I do too.
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You both still like each other, the problem is that she doesn't realize it. You broke up (sounds more like she broke up with you). But if you still talk all the time then she still wants an emotional relationship with you. She only closed the physical relationship.
To girls everything is a game. You worshipped her and so she didnt have to earn your approval anymore....GAME OVER. I know you probably think she is so wonderful that she would never think like that, but for girls this isnt a concious thing, its just the way they are, and most dont even understand it.
You are still worshipping her and shes sucking it up like a sponge even though she isn't being physical with you.
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Most of this is my own fault. I love this girl so much that my heart doesn't seem that importent.
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You need to respect yourself. Youre saying its your fault and your heart isn't that important so you can continue to worship her after she hurt you.
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She is what I'm all about right now. And it's been that way for a long time. I go out of my way to say hi. It feels so good just to see her smile and to talk to her. A week ago she was walking past me and I just kind of grabbed her hand for ten seconds and she kind of squeezed back and smiled but she had this look in her eyes that she used to get before she kissed me. I'm in over my head.
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She obviously likes you still.
If you want to get back together with her you have to start acting totally indifferent towards her. So far you have been an approval slut to her, just handing it out no matter what she does.
That actually gives you an advantage though, because in a sense she is addicted to your attention. And just like the forein aid the US gives to small nations all over the world, you can jerk it right out from under them if they arent doing what you want.
Act TOTALLY INDIFFERENT to her. Pretend like shes totally unfascinating no matter how bass ackwards that feels. Dont be rude or mean but act as if you would just assume be anywhere else as with her. Hopefully, (and most likely judgeing from how shes been acting towards you) she will start to think, "whats the matter with me?" Drag it out for a while longer than feels necessary so she really gets a feel for how much she wants you...
Good luck