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Originally posted by Bentley Little
. . . . but I can't for the life of me understand why he chose two people whom he had just met over me...? Usually people in a wedding party are close family and good friends you've known for a while, unless you have no friends.
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How long had it been since you two were 'the best of friends'? It sounds like a while, as you two drifted somewhat once you guys went off to college. So four years there, plus a couple afterwards... six years is plenty of time to grow into a different person. I personally have the tendency to dislike the person I was two years ago (just something weird I've noticed about myself while going from adolescence to young adult). So in my reckoning, six years is three of these lifecycles. People can grow A LOT. And his counselor compatriots have been with him for the last two years in which time they very well might have grown very close and he just doesn't feel he's the same person he was when you two lived close by. And of course, you would have changed bunches in that time as well, so you're not even the same person that he knew.
Granted that these are things that could easily be overcome by some one-on-one sessions to readjust the friendship, and it stinks that it didn't happen when you attended his wedding. It could be that he's turned into a dick that really doesn't care about his past friends, or it could be that he was really busy (though leaving you hanging doesn't score any points in his favor).