Mantus

Well I hate to disappoint the trend of posting allot of reading material that we have on this forum. You don’t have to read it all and just comment on the title.


I am dating this girl. Both of us are in our early twenties thought she is three years younger then me. She has a very low sex drive and is extremely shy about the whole act. When we are intimate she is generally very docile to the point where she wouldn’t even kiss me back. The sex was pretty lousy because it felt like I was in it all by myself. Now she has some rather deep confidence and self-image issues so this is all too understandable.

I am fairly capable in the technical department of lovemaking but still rather inhibited on a romantic and creative level. Yet I realized that simply being good at it isn’t enough to get her interested. Some further action on my part would be required to bring my girl about. So last time things turned passionate I forced myself to talk.

I asked questions, made little jokes, teased and of course used compliments to make her feel good and encourage. My primary goal was to make her get more involved. It went rather well. Like other things it takes a bit of practice to get a feel for what to say and when. I was far from perfect but it went smooth enough. In fact at first she was embarrassed and told me to stop talking with a kind of nervous giggle in her voice. I took that as a sign that I still had a chance and teased her a bit. Eventually she got into it. There were a few mistakes like a joke being made at the wrong time and my compliments were a bit too generic and repetitive. Not overdoing it was the only thing I did right; a few well-placed comments can go a long way. Over all though it went very well.

All the talk helped to smooth over the little bumps along the way and made questions and comments seem so much more natural. The real challenge was getting her more involved in our play. Like I said she is very shy. It took some words of encouragement, compliments and a bit of teasing but I eventually convinced her to go on top of me and be the one doing the petting and kissing. So she started necking me and kissing my chest. She is obviously nervous about doing something wrong. So I made sure to encourage her and compliment her all the while. The atmosphere in the room changed. It went from me feeling like we were just having fun to something passionate. I am very pleased to say the least – I should have opened my big mouth a long time ago.

Cheers.