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Would love to know why you are a former newt...but that isn't the topic...
My son was a great deal like you, (ACT 32, SAT 1460), president of the student body, all state football, all state wrestling...more friends, and girlfriends than his dad would ever hope to have, but...HE DIDN'T HAVE A CURFEW. Either when planning his evening, or before leaving we would talk about the upcoming events. if 11:00 p.m. would catch it, then fine. If it required 1:30 a.m., that was fine too, but his mother and I knew, where he was going to be, and who he was going to be with. Sure kids can lie to parents, who didn't on ocassion? But you can't lie all the time, because sooner or later it will catch up with you...so he just told us, and together we set the time limits. But he was very much aware of one thing...if he was late God help him...We knew that, he knew that...and because of that his teen years were spent in a wise, yet fun manner by him, and virtually worry free for us.
One other quick thing...we have a very open home, and his friends spent lots of time here, in other words we knew them. Also he had a phone, and knew how to use it...a quick call saying "I'll be a half hour late"! is far easier than two weeks at home with your little sister.
I'm unoaman to you, but I'm unoadad to him...
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