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Shades · 07-25-2004, 06:10 PM

I felt the exact same way for pretty much my entire undergrad career. I went to class, I ate, I slept, I might have occasionally played video games, that was about it. I started taking long naps during afternoons on weekends and thought of it as going into storage.

I don't know what to tell you. If you think something is wrong with you, then it is (if you didn't think anything was wrong, then you could at least be well adjusted). I finally got out of that zone by a combination of difficult changes. I started hanging out with my brother, people from my hockey team, just about anything to get out of the apartment. It didn't even matter if I had fun, I just would rather do anything than go back into storage because even I didn't have a use for myself at the moment.

I accepted a blind date from a friend. It didn't go very well, but it was OK. I made myself ask out a girl in class the first time I talked to her. Although that relationship ended after 1.5 years, I would still do it.

I don't know if this is advice per se, but it worked for me. I wasn't happy with myself or my life. The uniting factor in the changes I made was just living like I didn't care. I didn't care if I went out and didn't have fun, I figured eventually I just would. I didn't care if the girl said no, I would just rather punch the walls in disappointment instead of regret. Remember, you only have about 75 years to live. As for me, I was 22 when this all hit me. That meant I only had 53 years to live, the last 15 of which probably weren't going to be so pleasant.

Just do whatever you have a vague interest in doing. Don't worry if anyone else thinks it's cool. By now, I hang out when I feel like it, I watch cartoons, I review DVDs for DVD Town, play hockey, and talk about engineering things with people. At most, the hockey one is even vaguely cool. But I'm much happier.

You don't have a lot of time. Do not make yourself miserable. If you have any interest, go see a therapist. I wish to God I had done so while I was still in college and it was essentially free.

07-25-2004, 06:10 PM	#11 (permalink)
Shades Insane	I felt the exact same way for pretty much my entire undergrad career. I went to class, I ate, I slept, I might have occasionally played video games, that was about it. I started taking long naps during afternoons on weekends and thought of it as going into storage. I don't know what to tell you. If you think something is wrong with you, then it is (if you didn't think anything was wrong, then you could at least be well adjusted). I finally got out of that zone by a combination of difficult changes. I started hanging out with my brother, people from my hockey team, just about anything to get out of the apartment. It didn't even matter if I had fun, I just would rather do anything than go back into storage because even I didn't have a use for myself at the moment. I accepted a blind date from a friend. It didn't go very well, but it was OK. I made myself ask out a girl in class the first time I talked to her. Although that relationship ended after 1.5 years, I would still do it. I don't know if this is advice per se, but it worked for me. I wasn't happy with myself or my life. The uniting factor in the changes I made was just living like I didn't care. I didn't care if I went out and didn't have fun, I figured eventually I just would. I didn't care if the girl said no, I would just rather punch the walls in disappointment instead of regret. Remember, you only have about 75 years to live. As for me, I was 22 when this all hit me. That meant I only had 53 years to live, the last 15 of which probably weren't going to be so pleasant. Just do whatever you have a vague interest in doing. Don't worry if anyone else thinks it's cool. By now, I hang out when I feel like it, I watch cartoons, I review DVDs for DVD Town, play hockey, and talk about engineering things with people. At most, the hockey one is even vaguely cool. But I'm much happier. You don't have a lot of time. Do not make yourself miserable. If you have any interest, go see a therapist. I wish to God I had done so while I was still in college and it was essentially free.