Corneo

I was chatting up with an childhood buddy I haven't seen for a long while online. He was telling me about his hobbies and such. When he asked me about mine, I had nothing to say. Honestly I don't recall ever having an interest of side hobby. All I seem to do is go to class and come back and do my homework. But I don't have a activity I do for fun. What's wrong with me. Sure I watch some sports, but I don't keep up to it. Nor do I know which teams suck or not. I feel like a no body because of this.

kurty[B]

Doesn't seem strange to me, sounds like a fresh starting point to me.

If you feel like a nobody because of this, then start investigating. If you're attending college, take a look at some of the clubs at the school, check them out, see what you like, if you don't like, stop attending, and pursue something else.

lurkette

There's nothing wrong with you. There is nothing inherently interesting or valuable about having hobbies, outside of the enjoyment you get from doing them. And don't feel like a nobody - it's much better to have no hobbies than to be someone who goes on and on ad nauseum about whatever they're involved in to someone who has no interest. Plus, a lot of the people I work with are highly successful and are SO focused on their work (they're all scientists) that they really don't have outside hobbies. So don't use "hobbies" as a measure of personal success.

That said, if you are interested in having "side interests," by all means check out some of the extracurricular activities at your school or in your community. Take a look at what your academic or personal interests are, and get involved with things that match what you'd like to be up to.

And quit judging yourself

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Kazic

Being a bit hard on yourself. Maybe for right now you just focused on School. Or maybe you just haven't found what it is you are really interested in. Not really anything to be concerned with imo.

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desal75

Not that your buddy was lying but some people will embellish what it is they do on a regular basis to make themselves sound more interesting. Just like how guys will talk about being much more of a player than they really are.

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braindamage351

You could always take up music. It can take up a lot of time, and everyone respects it.

theusername

Agree with what everyone has said. There's no problem with not having a hobby unless you see it as a problem. If you do want one then i suggest just thinking what you seem to think is pretty neat and then trying to do it. Three years ago i decided I wanted to play guitar, I figured i like music and it'd be something i'd like to spend some time doing. So just find something you think is interesting and go for it.

No offense to braindamage but the last reason to do something is because "everyone respects it," don't do anything to impress anyone else or else it won't be your hobby.

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maleficent

Hobbies are a way to add to the quality of your life, and give you a chance to destress or just get away from your life.

Not everyone needs or even wants that.

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hob·by (1)
n. pl. hob·bies
An activity or interest pursued outside one's regular occupation and engaged in primarily for pleasure.

Well...unless you have to come here for work, you could consider the TFP a hobby...

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braindamage351

I didn't mean to do it because it will impress others. I meant that your girlfriend won't yell at you to do something constructive.

Shades

I felt the exact same way for pretty much my entire undergrad career. I went to class, I ate, I slept, I might have occasionally played video games, that was about it. I started taking long naps during afternoons on weekends and thought of it as going into storage.

I don't know what to tell you. If you think something is wrong with you, then it is (if you didn't think anything was wrong, then you could at least be well adjusted). I finally got out of that zone by a combination of difficult changes. I started hanging out with my brother, people from my hockey team, just about anything to get out of the apartment. It didn't even matter if I had fun, I just would rather do anything than go back into storage because even I didn't have a use for myself at the moment.

I accepted a blind date from a friend. It didn't go very well, but it was OK. I made myself ask out a girl in class the first time I talked to her. Although that relationship ended after 1.5 years, I would still do it.

I don't know if this is advice per se, but it worked for me. I wasn't happy with myself or my life. The uniting factor in the changes I made was just living like I didn't care. I didn't care if I went out and didn't have fun, I figured eventually I just would. I didn't care if the girl said no, I would just rather punch the walls in disappointment instead of regret. Remember, you only have about 75 years to live. As for me, I was 22 when this all hit me. That meant I only had 53 years to live, the last 15 of which probably weren't going to be so pleasant.

Just do whatever you have a vague interest in doing. Don't worry if anyone else thinks it's cool. By now, I hang out when I feel like it, I watch cartoons, I review DVDs for DVD Town, play hockey, and talk about engineering things with people. At most, the hockey one is even vaguely cool. But I'm much happier.

You don't have a lot of time. Do not make yourself miserable. If you have any interest, go see a therapist. I wish to God I had done so while I was still in college and it was essentially free.

eggers

Take something you have a passion for, and divulge into it further

theusername

braindamage, I know exactly what you meant. I have a friend who is obsessed with Lord of the Rings and Star Wars. This is his hobby and he knows everything about them. He doesnt show this side around most people because he knows it weirds them out. Me, I totally respect it and most importantly it is what makes him happy. He feels enjoyment out of time spent watching these movies, researching and discovering this fantasy world. It is only a hobby to him, he's not a nerd at all and if you met him you'd like him and have no idea he was into this stuff.

I mean no harm braindamage i respectfully disagree with how you look at a hobby and how i look at it, but more importantly its about how Corneo looks at it and for him to find an interest of his own choosing, if he wishes to.

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Corneo

Alright alright I got it. I did some researching and I got it. I'll start taking astronomy classes here at my uni. Most of these classes have you on campus at night. From what I heard, the majority of the people who takes these classes just want to be there to meet people. Sounds like my type of thing. I'm going to give it a stab. Thanks everyone!